Today I lost someone I cared about, it sucks and I’m sad. A big part of me wants to mope, turn off the lights in my house and not do anything. Just sit in the dark with my phone off and ignore the world for a few days. Maybe I will take that route, or maybe I won’t. I don’t think there is any 1 “correct” way to deal with someone you love dying…..
In general I’m a super positive person, so I like to find positive in everything. That’s pretty hard to do right now, but I will say the one positive of death is that it jolts you into appreciating everyone around you more. You are not shy about telling your family and friends you love them more often, if only for a while… I think this phenomenon is a big part of one of my favorite quotes which goes:
“The closer you are to death, the more alive you feel”
That quote came to me mainly in regards to explaining why I love to do risky activities like sky diving, scuba diving, skiing in back country… ect… but while writing this I realized that it also hits home for me now.
One reply on “Dealing With A Loss”
So sorry to hear that someone you cared about passed away. You’re right there is not one way or right way to deal with grief. Its more than okay to turn off your lights and unplug today or for the next two days, as long as you want. But then your grief will bring you to a new way of coping, whether that is doing things you know that person would appreciate or being more like the person you want to be. Missing someone never goes away, and sometimes it inspires you to do more and feel more and love more and other times it just makes you want to cry. And all of that is fine.