Category: Thought Experiment

If you are trying to get your way with something petty. Take for example you want to watch the new show with Steve carrell about astronots on netflix. But your spouce wants to watch something else. Instead of getting in an argument about it, try the aloof approach forst. First bring up the idea incorrectly. Say something like: hey didn’t we want to watch a new show on Netflix? Spouce will think for a second and say something like: hmmmm maybe? Then you will give a main characters name: oh I think Steve carrell was in it maybe, can you look it up to see if he is in anything new? Spouce looks it up and then says the name: oh it’s X show. If your lucky she will say the exact phrase that you are wanting: oh we wanted to watch x show. But if spouce doesn’t say it incorrectly: ohhhh we wanted to watch X show (just mispronounce a part of it badly). Hopefully spouce will then reply: no we wanted to watch X show!

now you are in Business. The human mind is a weird thing. Once someone says a phrase, they seem to be wayyyyyyy more likely to agree to whatever that phrase is. Ever so slightly it seems to plant the thought, maybe even subconsciously that the idea was there’s. I know that sounds so simplistic, but I’ve experienced it many times. And before you sckof go ahead and try it. Just so it with something trivial, you really should never do this on anything meaningful because you have to let people you love make up their own minds without trying to coehece anytype of agreement of behaviour out of them. But when your in a business setting, where there is much more gray area in terms of how you can steer or not steer a situation so that you get the desired outcome, then to me in those types of situations it is much more acceptable to implement this kind of technique. The only reason I even used the spouce example instead of starting with the business one is because it’s best to try this out and refine your technique a bit before you attempt this with strangers or Ina setting with higher stakes.

i also want to add, before anyone rushes to judgment about me in their mind due to this somewhat tricky idea. The main way I found this out is through being not great at talking to strangers. When your talking to a new person, it always seems beat to pretend to not be as knowledgeable as them. You come off like a much better person, and it’s much easier to make friends that way. If you do actually know questions and ideas about subjects they like, it causes a little bit of friction. If you can let them “teach” you about things, it seems to form a much quicker bond. And then instead of working harder to show people that you are a good and nice person, who just reads a lot and has a wide range of interest, thus a pretty wide range of knowledge. You can just be yourself after that intiail first encounter or two and your off to the races becoming closer to a new person who might become a cool part of your life going forward.