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Julia Places and Spaces

Coke and Marshmallows

Sensory memory is a crazy thing. I turned 27 this week and I can still vividly remember an afternoon when I was six years old.

Sitting on the hot rod-iron chairs on our low and sun-bleached back porch. My friend was over at my house and we were having a snack. Whichever adult in my life thought it was a good idea to give us a can of Coca-Cola each and a bag of mini marshmallows, must have been feeling generous. Even though she’s a law obeying, and quite religious woman today, there was always a little streak of wild in my friend and it was her idea to fill our mouths with sips of Coke and pop a couple marshmallows in. That sickly sweet, bubbling and fizzing sensation comes back to me so clearly it makes my teeth feel fuzzy.

We swished the frothy concoction around in our mouths and  turned it into a contest – seeing who could spit the wet marshmallows farthest off the porch and into the yard. Girls spitting range is not the same as boys, and at six years old we were pretty bad. Most of the mess must have ended up on the porch, though I can’t remember. I’m not sure how long we sat out there that day or if we did anything after or before. The only memory that sticks with me is the taste of the  first few sips of lukewarm coke and the slimy marshmallows expanding and fizzing in my mouth.

Pretty gross. But pretty cool how clearly I can recall it. If only all memories were so easily brought forth!

 

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Inspirational Julia

Even the Terrible Things: A Book Review

“Even the Terrible Things Seem Beautiful to Me Now” is a collection of articles written by a Chicago Tribune columnist, Mary Schmich, and anyone who ever lived in or wants to live in Chicago should read it.

The first section of the book is about Mothers and the very first story made me cry as I read it in the book store while I was deciding if I was going to buy the book or not. in such a relatable way. The way she describes a powder blue bike that her dad gave her even though he didn’t have much to give, made me think about cruising on the city streets at dusk, swerving to avoid car doors and feeling free with the wind on your face and in your hair.

She talks about tragedy and strength in the same sentence as she describes how a Chicago judge, who’s husband and mother were murdered, comforts her children and ends up going back to work.

Schmich is able to take a normal life, a normal story, and show it for the incredible gift that it is. She says her mom told her, in her old age, that looking back across her life she could only see good. She said that even the terrible things seemed beautiful to her now. How hopeful is that for every reader? That life gives you what it will and in the end – somehow- everything looks beautiful.

Book Review Grade: A

Writing style: Frank, honest and raw

Mood: while there is a lot of sadness in this book, there is a prevailing theme of hope and strength and survivorship

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Parisian Jacque

About five years ago I lived in Paris for a semester of school and lived with a French family.

The 3 kids, my french ‘siblings’ had a pet fish and loved to eat chocolatey cereal or chocolate biscuits (cookies). They loved learn English words from me while they helped me with my French/ laughed at my incorrect verb conjugation.

They also were obsessed with the show 24. “Jacque Bauer!!” they couldn’t comprehend how I didn’t watch the show and insisted I watch with them. The only TV in the apartment was in their parents room and one night I was babysitting them/ hanging out – after making French versions of frozen pizza (tuna on one, and some white sauce on the other)- we turned on season 2 or 4 of 24.

Nothing is as funny as trying to keep up with a bunch of gasping french kids, shrieking as things happen while you’re about three minutes behind in understanding due to slow translation skills and a heavy reliance on context clues.

I never watched the show in the states even after my return, it just wasn’t the same without the dubbed voices and the feeling of sitting on worn, creaky, french floorboards at the foot of a bed.

Now that its back on TV, I wonder if they’re all freaking out and watching together…

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Parents

I had the great opportunity to spend Memorial Day weekend with my older brother, sister-in-law and my niece. They just moved into a bigger house and have a guest futon of which I took full advantage. They make parenting look good. My niece is teething and got a little bit of a fever on my second day in town. I love her so much and got nervous when she obviously wasn’t feeling well but they just did some parent things and stayed calm and don’t get frustrated when she is crying because she doesn’t feel good. As much as I love babies and kids living with them for a couple days reminded me how intense parenting is and how lucky it is that my amazing, cute, smart niece has such great parents making this life for her where she will develop and grow.

she did sit on my lap to read books and we built blocks, which I swear she was counting even though she’s only One.

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Julia Places and Spaces

Crater Lake

I read a description in a semi-autobiographical novel once about Crater Lake in Oregon once, and since then its felt like this mythical place that I have to go visit. The book is about this woman who at 26 hikes a huge portion of the Pacific Coast Trail, alone…and with no prior hiking experience. I am not sure about taking on that much due to time and possibly not being as brave/stupid to go alone as she was. But a hike over several days to reach Crater Lake? totally doable.

I should start figuring out a plan to make this real.

 

The lake was formed by a volcanic eruption about 8,000 years ago, so it’s like a mountain in reverse: 1,943 feet deep, the deepest in the country. The rim is about 700 feet above the water’s surface; it’s so blue when you look down. The Klamath Indian tribe considers it a sacred site.

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Change

A hilarious friend posted recently on facebook, using over-plucked eyebrows as a metaphor for learning to accept the way things are, letting it go, and moving the hell on with your day/life.

For some reason that hilarious anecdote stuck with me and really made me take a look at what I was holding onto; things I knew I was holding on to and just not dealing with.

Sometimes what you are holding onto and back from the one person you need to share it with only makes you feel worse. Even when you are trying to not hurt someone’s feelings, holding onto it will bring you down and begin to hurt you.

I took my friend’s Facebook, and other trusted friend’s (and favorite author’s) advice, and finally dealt with what I needed to. And as cliche as it is- I felt like a giant weight was lifted off my shoulders. I might have to go throw-up now because its still a huge change and scary and all that. But at least my eyebrows aren’t over-plucked.